Dispelling Misconceptions About Bloggers

I’ve been reading a variety of blog posts and reactions to them recently about how bloggers should be doing this but should not be doing that that. I’ve come to realize that there are a few major myths about bloggers circulating out there that are just wrong.

I’m ready to dispel these myths – right here, right now. Here are some things about bloggers that should be obvious, but obviously aren’t.

Bloggers Do Other Things Besides Blogging

I know, it’s hard to believe. But trust me on this. I’m not going to talk about the presumed perception I have about other bloggers and their lives. I’m going to start with basing this one on my own life.

Awhile back, I wrote about how I get things done. But that post may not have put my average day in perspective.

On a typical week day, I go to work at an office. I commute for about 45 minutes to an hour, depending on traffic. So that alone is 9 and a half hours of every weekday. After work, I like to spend time with my husband and my pets. I clean up and usually fix dinner. Some nights I play tennis or workout (or should be at least – that’s an area I’ve been slacking on recently).

What time is left of the day is spent on blogging and related activities, including writing posts for my site, writing guest posts for others sites and building up freelance writing portfolio, working on some new projects, reading and commenting on other blogs, trying to interact more on social media, and tending to my latest hobby of my photography blog.

The weekends usually vary. Some weekends involve road trips to photograph new places and add new images to my collection to share. Some involve my husband and I spending some quality time together, visiting family or going out with friends. And the time left is usually spent at the computer, writing posts, guest posts, working on aforementioned special projects, and what not.

Bloggers Cannot Spread Themselves Too Thin & Must Prioritize

The point I’m getting at is that I don’t have all of my waking hours 7 days a week to devote to blogging, so I have to prioritize so I don’t find myself spending all day every day on the computer which eventually leads to a bevy of relationship and health problems in the long run.

I have to weigh the importance of everything I do and how it will benefit both myself and others in the long run. Should I spend an hour a day tracking down 100+ people who retweeted posts of mine and then break down the list into 140 character bites and send out dozens of thank you tweets or should I spend that hour reading posts by others and commenting on them? Should I try to answer every single comment on my blog or should I write a new post? Should I give myself a few hours off to relax or keep pushing myself to the point I need to take a week off because of burnout?

And I know I’m not the only one. Ever since I started blogging three years ago, I have seen posts here and there about how some big names in the industry aren’t appreciative, aren’t providing value, aren’t this and aren’t that. Guess what? They might be balancing full time jobs or managing their own business while having personal lives outside it all to dedicate themselves to. There are experts out there dealing with more tweets, comments, emails, customer service issues, and who knows what else every day that would probably make the average person’s head explode. Would they like to acknowledge everyone? Maybe. Can they? No.

This doesn’t mean that you go unnoticed, however. My policy is to share things and comment on blogs without the goal of receiving attention or reciprocation. What I have found through basic observation is that there are certain people who may never tweet their thanks, reply to the comment, or come by my site to comment back. And I’m ok with that because I share things for the benefit of my audience and because I find it valuable.

But you know what? Some of those same people have since mentioned me in posts, in sessions at Blog World (particularly being thanked for tweeting), and in their webinars. So while they may not acknowledge my every effort, they do take notice and apparently appreciate it.

Bloggers Should Probably Be Making Money

Wow, did she just say this? Yes! Why? Tell me, would you work a job full time or even part time without compensation? That’s really awesome if you would, and I’m sure there are a lot of people who would be happy to take advantage of that.

For the rest of us bloggers who need to earn a living because we have goals and put hard work (whether part time or full time) into researching our niche, keeping up to date on the latest trends and technologies, maintaining our blogs, creating amazing content, and building our authority, we DESERVE to be able to monetize it.

WE DESERVE IT!

We don’t need anyone criticizing us for working hard, quite possibly for years for little to no income, discovering a great idea, and taking our blog to the next level to begin earning a living from what we love. We don’t need anyone making us feel guilty when evolving from a free for all giveaway of our knowledge to producing our first eBook and then (gasp) selling it. We don’t need anyone attacking us for trying to earn commission off of a product, service, or event that we truly believe in and would like to recommend to others.

Please note, if you are creating or recommending crap just to make a buck (and you know who you are), you probably do deserve it and then some because you have made a bad name for reputable people who are creating and recommending things they believe in. This also goes for the shifty people that try to bait and switch others into clicking their links.

But for the rest of you who are doing things you truly believe in, then you don’t deserve to take the flack for it anymore. Look at all of the people who appreciate what you do, take constructive feedback to improve what you need to, and let the haters hate.

If You’re a Blogger Who Agrees, Please Stand Up

Stop feeling guilty about not having time to do everything. Stop sacrificing your health and your relationships because you’re trying to do everything. Stop letting others put you down for taking the next step with the authority you have worked hard for and deserve to profit from.

Start enjoying what you do, work toward your goals for the level of success you desire, and take some time out for yourself worry free. Chances are, you’ve earned it!

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  1. says

    Well said Kristi! As for those bloggers who sell crap on their blog they are only hurting themselves. Sure they make an occasional sale but they will never see that person again and who knows how many other people they will tell. Heck, screw that, these days all they have to do to show their displeasure of being ripped off is to write a post about it. ;)

    I’ve recently started a few blogs because I’m currently unemployed and you are so right, why shouldn’t I make money with my blogs.
    Sire just posted How Should You Treat Your Affiliates?

    • says

      Very true Sire, although I think some people who are a bit less on the ethical side about the way they make money actually do make a ton of it, which is sad. Sorry to hear you’re unemployed, but glad to hear you have a lot of opportunity to make some income from your blogs! :)

  2. says

    Hi Kristi,

    I am standing up right now. I am commenting lesser compared to the time when i visited every of my blogging buddies blog and comment in each and everyone of them. You are too right about blogging will lead to bevy of relationships as my wife gave me the showdown before because i spend too much time blogging.

    I believe my fellow bloggers who retweeted my post sincerely hope to share with their followers. Even though i couldn’t find time to thank each and everyone of them, i am appreciative of their kindness and will find chance to return the favor one day. We need to understand there has to be a balance between online and offline activities. We just can’t spend 24 hours monitoring the computer screen.

    I enjoyed this post a lot. Thanks.

    Lye
    Lye Kuek Hin just posted 5 Critical Aspects of SEO You Must Consider as a Blogger

  3. says

    Great post, Kristi. All excellent points.

    As an example of #1, I am reading your blog for a break right now but it’s 3:30AM in the morning. My day will start in 3 hrs and run until 10PM today (16 hrs). My mind needed a breather since I’ve been negotiating contracts, working out estate plans for new clients, and planning for 4 new employees in my sleep. I woke up at 3AM to capture that information. That’s the downside of owning your business. It’s 24/7.

    By the way, it’s not always like this but it goes in ebb and flow. When you’re looking to add 100 people to a company, there’s a lot of work to do.

    As a blogger, prioritizing is a big key. I took time out for a bit from posting public blogs because we were too busy with the brick and mortar business and our busy season (Tax season just like CPAs) to spend the 8-30 hrs per post to make sure that it meets standards before being published. I did short posts that were only available privately to address critical issues or share my opinions instead. The upside is that we have a backlog of articles that can go public in July.

    #3. Absolutely. I find that most bloggers I talk to can’t admit that they want to make money from their blog. They went into blogging because there’s a myth that it’s easy to make money online and through a blog. It’s not. It takes hard work, smart planning, and good execution to be successful. Some people have luck but it’s mostly from consistently working hard and smart.

    I posted this question months ago on several forums. “Why did you start your blog? and what are you looking to get from it?” Not a single person admitted that they wanted to make money. The #1 answer was “providing information and helping people.”

    As you pointed out, Kristi, it is a full time job and you deserve to get paid.

    People should think of it as a long term business (at least 5 years), especially if it’s in a niche that you’re passionate about. Have clear facts about how much you want to make and how you could earn money in a professional, ethical way.

    If your blog isn’t making money and does not look like it will make money, treat it as a hobby just like quilting or something. Set time limits to spend on it. This way, you won’t have unspoken resentment about the lack of income and destroy your enjoyment in talking about your passion.

    Kim
    Money and Risk just posted Why Investors Buy Into Ponzi Schemes and Frauds

    • says

      Hi Kim, thanks for your great response. I used to say the same thing about the “why did you start your blog” question because I felt like anyone who did say they wanted to make money was going to get bashed for it. Now I say it is to provide valuable information and to one day make a living off of it!

  4. says

    Hear hear! It’s about time someone stood up and spelled it out for people. I despise the sense of entitlement people have, like we should be doing everything for free and answer every question and problem sent our way within 2 hours. I want to help people by all means, but I’m also a normal human being with a wife and friends and a life, believe it or not.

    Thanks for taking a stand Kristi. Hopefully people will see the light one day
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    • says

      Thanks for agreeing Dave! I think a lot of people have a sense of entitlement, and it’s not just a blogger’s fans. Consultants, freelancers – they all have those clients that think that the person has nothing but 100% devotion to their project and no one else’s. Kind of sad to get those types.

  5. says

    Good points Kristi! I think many people don’t realize how many bloggers work on their blog when others would usually take leisure time, or TV time.

    With regards to priorities, they can change drastically depending on your business model, on your natural abilities and what you’ve got going on in your life at the moment.

    You’re right, I do believe people notice when you retweet their stuff and leave comments etc, and the good vibes are there.

    What’s interesting is that I’ve had a few people come up to me and tell me how I should respond to their social interactions. I find it interesting that they naturally assume I have the same business goals as they do. As it happens I feel very at ease in cold calling and networking directly one-on-one which also happens to suit my personal business. So my online communication for my personal business is geared around that and evolves around on my current needs… because there are only so many hours in a day and I get the best mileage doing what I do best for me.
    Cindy King just posted 9 Tips To Learn More About Your International Markets Over The Phone

    • says

      Amen to that Cindy. I get asked a lot what I’m going to be doing after work when everyone else is going to hit happy hour or watch their favorite shows. If I’m not playing tennis, I’m more than likely going to be working. No one wants to hear that though.

      I think you do a good job with all that you have to manage though! :)

  6. says

    I am glad you posted this. I get tired of the constant litany of “you shoulds” and being told I am not doing enough. I, too, have a life and do other things besides blogging. I think the people who complain do not “have a life” and need to get one!

    I would write more, but my “life” otherwise know as my 6 month old puppy, is too quiet and I have to see what she is doing.
    Stephanie Suesan Smith just posted Five Pages You Need On Your Blog

    • says

      Puppies, kittens – they are definitely worth stepping away from the computer for Stephanie. Maybe those complainers should get some four legged friends! :)

  7. says

    Thanks God and you for the clarification about Bloggers having other work as well. I’m myself a Web Designer and have to handle other client projects as well. So, when people ask me to write something when I’m online I feel there should be an answering machine to explain to them as many people ask the same question.

    Coming to the last point, I’ve felt very happy when I do it with happiness. I know it’s a bit hard to do that after a whole day’s work/study.
    Mani Viswanathan just posted 6 Ways How Clutter Affects Your Concentration

    • says

      That’s another good point Mani. If you’re trying to keep up with everything and losing the joy in blogging and interacting, then in the long run that is way worse for your community.

  8. says

    I thought this was sensational Kristi. Seriously. As I read it I kept nodding my head and saying uh-huh….uh-huh….yep…..that’s right….go girl….you said it….right on!

    Like you, I have a full time job, a family, and a body that needs to be taken care of. I simply don’t have the time to do all the blog ‘stuff’ I ‘should’ be doing. But at some point, we’ve got to call it a day.

    And regarding money, I’m all for it. In fact, I will happily admit I love money and all that it brings my family and the people I bless with it. :-) People that act like money has no importance are being quite naive in my opinion. It’s critical that we, as bloggers, get rewarded for what we do. If we’re going broke while blogging, then we’re out of balance, and that ain’t good.

    Anyway, I could go on and one Kristi but let me just say that I thought this was absolutely on point and stirring, and I really appreciate you incredible efforts on a daily basis.

    Marcus
    Marcus Sheridan-The Sales Lion just posted How to Use Skype to Build Fans, Followers, and Amazing Relationships

    • says

      Thanks Marcus! I always read the “money isn’t the goal” thing and tried to agree with it. Then I thought about all my goals (photography, travel, dancing, etc.) and realized that guess what – they all require money to do! Hence, maybe the goal shouldn’t be a millionaire, but to earn enough to do the things you want and need to do in life. Because providing for family also requires money whether you like it or not! :)

  9. says

    Would they like to acknowledge everyone? Maybe. Can they? No. — perfect question and answer Kristi. I totally agree with you and I’m with you here. As I read your post, I’ve come to realize that maybe the misconceptions about bloggers are because of the term “blogger” itself. That because he or she is a blogger, they blog most of the time if not all of the time. Maybe that’s the misconception because the term “blogger” means a person who has a blog and keeps and updates it. I believe that a blogger keeps and updates a blog but does not live only for it and does not live only with it.
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    • says

      True John. The more I read from others, the more I think that people think bloggers do nothing but. And that’s far beyond the truth – I’m not sure I know anyone who only blogs with no other business / financial intentions or separate work on the flip side.

  10. says

    Well said Kristi, I guess you got a lot out of your chest on this one. I won’t be repeating what you said because it is so self explanatory that anyone who reads it will understand the message. There is life or other commitments besides blogging and for those who do not understand, serious bloggers spend way too much effort to provide value for its audience. This is hard work, and just like you said, should be compensated.
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    • says

      Thanks! It is hard work, because no matter how much you may love your niche, there’s a lot of stuff you probably don’t love like the platform maintenance, marketing, search, etc.

  11. says

    Kristi, I could not agree more.

    I actually did put a lot (sometimes way too much) time into my blog and put everything aside. However, it doesn’t bring the results I had from working less on other projects. So I downsized on the blog and trying to invest my time in other things. And how is that mean on my side?

    I would be grateful if you posted one post a week because it helps me. But most people will just be mad because you are not spending as much time on it as before. Everyone expects you to give and give and give. When is enough???

    Also, when it comes to monetizing, I am so annoyed with people calling us (me, you and everyone else) out for trying to make money with out blogs.

    I work more hours a day on my blog than I worked in a special police unit as my day job. How does that translate into money!?

    So I stopped feeling bad about all this. I say what I mean. I try to help. I do the best I can. If some can’t appreciate it, I am sorry. But you provide more value for free than many courses, books and subscriptions I have paid before and people are still not satisfied.

    What would happen if you just said, OK enough, I am not going to blog anymore, I can’t afford the time or money. Would they finally understand the value of what you are doing?

    Thanks for this awesome post!!!
    Brankica just posted How NOT to Win a Blogging Contest and Connect With People

    • says

      Thanks for understanding Brankica! I think everyone needs to think about what is working out the best for themselves, and cut back on the stuff that isn’t. Your posts have always been good for me, so even if you only do one a week, I’ll appreciate those! :)

  12. says

    It’s all about expectations. Many of us make ourselves constantly available so people start to expect everyone to be available all the time. Personally, I can go shopping and run all my errands without making or taking one phone call. But I sure see a lot of other people with cell phones attached to their ears as they go through the aisles at the grocery store.

    Not only can you shop online 24/7, but how many online stores and services provide 24/7 support. So people come to expect an online business to be always available. If they see your blog as part of your business, then they probably expect at least business hours.

    I’m not saying that those expectations are all reasonable; I’m just sayin’ :)

    One thing that might help is to spell out what visitors and customers should expect. On your contact page, Kristi, you offer several ways for me to get in touch with you which makes me think you’re happy to interact with readers. Adding a sentence about how long it will likely take you to reply might help your readers be more patient. For example, when I sell advertising I say “Your listing will be added within 3 business days (usually sooner).” I rarely get complaints that I’m not working fast enough.

    And as an aside… as much as I love my niche, I love the the platform maintenance and techie type stuff more. Another example of why we should all remember “to each his/her own” and treat each other accordingly. For me, playing with blogging platforms and designs is more fun and more important than making money from the blogs. Not that I don’t like, need, and want money… LOL! Perhaps I’ll consider doing what Kim suggested – hobby blog instead of business blog.
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    • says

      Oh.. and I just remembered… on one of my blogs my disclosure starts with “Yes, I earn money from this blog.” I go on to explain how and then say, “What it doesn’t mean is that I blog about things simply to make money.” If someone doesn’t read my blog because of it, he/she isn’t my target market anyway. :o Expectations….

    • says

      Good points Linda. I think a lot of bloggers (myself included) probably did start off with a lot of time on their hands, and time has diminished based on multiple factors, including that over time our audience has grown.

      Oddly enough, one place I do have a time mention is on my guest post guidelines because I like to actually read the post and decide whether it will work as opposed to potentially accept something that I later discover I have to edit the heck out of. And I still get people who will email me, tweet me, Facebook message me, etc. within a few hours to ask if I will post it or not. :)

      • says

        Oh well then, there goes the theory that spelling out time expectations will help. I suppose it had one big flaw – people would have to read the instructions. LOL! I wouldn’t be surprised if there’s an interesting correlation between the quality of the guest post and the patience of the author. ;)

  13. says

    Awesome post Kristi!

    I love how you put everything into perspective. Especially about a lot of people criticizing bloggers for monetizing their efforts. I have been learning a lot about dealing with critics lately and I think the best thing to do is be careful who you listen to. Not everybody who reads your blog wants the best for you, some people are just irrational and hypocritical and in cases where you experience them you have to think about what is best for you and then focus on it.
    Onibalusi Bamidele just posted How to Market Your Blog

    • says

      Thanks Onibalusi! I do find that the people who actually can see things from another perspective than their own generally understand the evolution of a blog from hobby to business. The ones who can’t probably aren’t going to get that far themselves anyway.

  14. says

    Dear Kristi
    Firstly, I never expect a reply, comment, rt or response from you in any way shape or form. New to the Social Media world, I started a new job March 2011 and jumped in head first, tweeting, facebook, blog, youtube etc. etc etc! Somewhere in those early days I read something online where your blog was in a list of 10 great blogs I think, and that was how I “found you” thank you! Long story, I went to your site, loved it. The awesome content, simplicity and ease of use, and of course the look. I have followed you since and am grateful everyday for your wise words, beautiful photography, and generosity of spirit! I also ask myself “How does she do it all?” So thank you for sharing, from the heart, again! Know that the wonderful work you put out there is so appreciated by multitudes, everyday!

    • says

      You’re sweet Irene! I really would love to respond to everyone, and I try to at least with my photography because it’s such a smaller audience. I hope that one way or the other I’m always giving something back, even if it is just value in my writing. Thanks so much!

  15. says

    Hi Kristi
    Sounds as though we bloggers do have a real life after all.

    Job, family, exercise, cooking… sounds just like regular stuff that we all have to do.

    You’ve made us sound almost human. LOL

    • says

      I can’t even imagine doing it all with kids Stephanie! And with those kinds of responsibilities, it makes it even more important that you are doing something worthwhile and efficient!

  16. says

    Kristi

    I hate leaving comments that agree with someone – but I totally agree with you!

    This happened to me on my bass guitar site as I transitioned from free to fee – I got a stack of unsubscribes and a couple of pretty nasty emails accusing me of selling out.

    For a couple of days I was annoyed, but I’m glad I got those emails because once I sat down and worked out what my actual goals were, the totally ‘free’ model just didn’t align with those goals. And in fact those emails allowed me to be much more upfront about selling. So they helped me in the end.

    These days when I get anyone whining on my bass site I just email them and tell them that they are welcome to contribute a series of high quality free content bass lessons and I’ll give them a platform to publish those lessons on so they don’t have to build an audience.

    It’s weird how I never hear from those guys again….

    There’s nothing wrong with selling or promoting your products and services. If people don’t like it, invite them to vote with their feet and go elsewhere.

    Cool post – when’s the next eBook due???

    Paul
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    • says

      I don’t mind comments that disagree Paul, but I’m glad you’re in agreement on this one! :) I’ve dealt with the unsubscribes both ways. I get unsubscribes if I even hint at a product, even though I only promote stuff I’ve used and believe will be valuable. And I’ve gotten unsubscribes from just sending something informational. You can’t please anyone, and I’ve learned to live with that.

      My next project isn’t an eBook actually. I think it will be something even better! :)

  17. says

    Fantastic Quote from Longfellow!

    I agree about how bloggers have to sometimes say No to certain things and focus on making money. I offer free help to people and post my email address on my site. Most people are quite gracious when I help them and answer their questions. But occasionally I’ll get someone that wants me to won’t solve all the problems and spend lots of time with them for free and I cannot do that.
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  18. says

    Hi Kristi,

    So please how many hours do you have in a day? It must be more than 24 and you must be on another planet! I duff my hat for you lady.

    How are you able to manage all your blogs + a day job + love life + hobbies + … without going crazy? And judging by the quality of posts you publish here and the stunning photos I saw on your photography blog, I am sure that whatever else you are involved in will be done to utter perfection.

    I hope hubby is not being left in the back burner because of all these activities that you have to do on a day-to-day basis. And no, I will not take your word for it. Maybe he should guest-post here to confirm that :) so that we your readers will not feel guilty of making you overwork yourself.

    You are one hell of a super duper organized lady but it’s time to slow down. If you can’t, plan for some tiny feet. They surely know how to slow us down, I am speaking from experience.
    Flo just posted Blogging? No Way! … Give Me a Static Website Anyday

    • says

      Kristi is fortunate that her hubby is a photographer and blogger too. (Hopefully she’ll share his URLs in reply to this comment.)

      I am consistently amazed at what Kristi and Ileane at Basic Blog Tips accomplish. I am one of the fortunate few who do not have a J.O.B. (Just Over Broke) and still I am unable to accomplish as much as I wish I could! I know Kristi is super organized and that helps, but I honestly don’t know how they both do what they do.

      I appreciate them and many others much more because I know how much time and experience goes into everything they do and share. That is the key factor that many are missing: it is NOT just how much time it takes to do something – it is all the years of learning that go into being ABLE to answer or accomplish or share that something.

      We all must become more tolerant and patient. Whenever one of us is not doing as much of any one thing as we usually do it is primarily because we’re learning something new or testing another strategy or maybe writing a book. The way to do more is to minimize time spent on other tasks.

      I am glad to see bloggers are behind what Kristi wrote here because it is all true and I agree with her. My asking for her thoughts in my post about thanking people on Twitter – or not – and so many disagreeing with me – triggered this great post. Kristi is one who understands that we have to prioritize and let some things go…like saying thanks for every single tweet or RT.
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  19. says

    Kristi, I’m also one of those bloggers who has a full-time career, and I also write multiple blogs, three of my own and one for a local nonprofit hiking organization. I totally agree with what you say here. It is about balance and enjoying life.

    For example, I spent several hours today hiking with a local group. I could have stayed home and written blog posts, or tweeted, or commented on blogs. Instead I did what was best for my physical and emotional health.
    John Soares just posted How Multitasking Hurts Your Productivity

  20. says

    Hi Kristi,

    You could have written your post directly to me! My entire blog is devoted to Part Time Marketers who build their business or grow their blog while working a full time job. It’s damn hard and I must say that I wholeheartedly respect anyone who tries, and tries to do it right.

    I agree that managing how you prioritize your limited time is a must, always keeping in mind what will bring you the most productive effort with your time. It’s not always easy to figure out, but it’s a must if you want to succeed part time.

    Thanks Kristi… I stand up and am counted as one of your Part Time blogging fans.

    Thanks for writing this post.

    Bob

    • says

      Always makes me happy that there are others out there balancing the same types of things Bob! Glad to have you as a fan! :)

  21. says

    Hi Kristi,

    I am standing up because I completely agree with the points you have made. What’s interesting is that recently when my computer and internet decided to not work simultaneously, I took 2 days off and really feel rejuvenated. I have realized that I was off-balance and spreading myself too thin. I came back to blogging with a new perspective that I also enjoy spending time offline and value my relationships, health and time-out for myself.

    So the points you made about stop sacrificing and stop feeling guilty stood out for me! Thanks for keeping it real and bringing up that bloggers do go to work too! With the goal, eventually to make an income from blogging.

    Thanks Kristi for this post!
    Diana
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    • says

      Forced time outs can do wonders. I get some of those when we go on a little road trip for photography, and it definitely is refreshing! :)

  22. says

    Honestly I still don’t know how you do as much as you do. If you work full time and commute 45 min to 1 hour, have a family life, how on earth you find the spare time to do everything is amazing. When the weekend comes around or the day off I would be ready to relax and take it easy. But, if you want to do the things you do, and you enjoy it who cares what anyone else thinks.
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  23. says

    Well Kristi,

    This is an awesome post and just the mind of a part-time blogger. You have taken a lot off your chest by writing this post and I can feel it. Your day schedule pretty much matches with mine – I travel about an hour to office and sit all day long at the computer.

    After I return home I sit at my laptop until mid night to blog and do all blogging related activities. And the more you give the more you receive when it comes to social media. So you can try to reciprocate by a thanks, but then it is not possible always. You cannot thank hundreds of tweets and you have only 24 hrs a day just like the others. Happens to me :)

    On your point about people criticizing on bloggers making money, I have seen it many times happen to A-listers and myself. I have read a lot of comments on Darren’s blog when he writes a review of a product; people hate it when bloggers want to make money; and I just can’t relate to that feeling. WE DESERVE IT, as you say. Case closed.

    BTW: It is workouts that I am missing too lately :)

    Cheers,
    Jane.
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  24. says

    I agree, Kristi! Big, big time.

    I have a child. I have a business that has nothing to do with bizchickblogs. And I am tired.

    So when I’m not “consistent” and get penalized for it, I just say, so be it. I know that I am doing what I like to do and in the beginning, that’s why it started. Sometimes, we start off doing something “freeing” and something we love only to turn it into a ball and chain. I refuse to do that with blogging. I have made a promise to myself to ultimately prize the joy of blogging over the obligation.

    Love this post. Thanks for your continual encouragement!
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    • Jennifer says

      Tia! You hit the thing that killed my blogs. It stopped being fun, started feeling like work…big ugly “do I have to go in today…this job sucks” work. I’ve got some plans to restart some fun blogging. If I never make money from it , that’s okay with me. I just want to take back a fun outlet to express myself and not peeve off friends and family (long story).

      Love this post Kristi. You hit it on the head, as usual.

  25. says

    Thank you, Kristi, for your valuable advice, over and over again. As mentioned in other comments, this translates into a lot of work hours and sharing your knowledge (and feelings) with everybody.
    I appreciate your work, I am fairly new at blogging, my reward is the appreciation I receive and the pleasure I gain from creating something which to me is dear, probably it is all about giving and not expecting (too) much back, yet.

  26. says

    I’m probably guilty of spreading myself too thin. Luckily, I’m not working outside the house right now. Instead, I’m launching a freelance writing and editing business, homeschooling five children, and running a children’s theater board.
    I keep reminding myself that I’m at the beginning of the learning curve regarding social media and marketing. Once I “master” those , I hope to shorten the amount of time I spend on each task, which should reduce the risk of burnout.
    As for bloggers making money, why shouldn’t they? Most of my favorite bloggers give away so much more than they sell. It would be ridiculous to fault them for having quality products available.
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  27. says

    Wow, this is a fabulous post, Kristi. I’m inspired to say something deeply evolved like, “YOU GO GIRL!!” :)

    Unfortunately, the “spread yourself too thin” guideline is one we all have to discover the hard way, it seems. I thought I was doing a pretty good job of balancing things. Then this past week I have been pretty under the weather, and man, the amount of stuff I felt guilty about NOT doing was crazy. There were about 5 posts a day I wasn’t commenting on. Writing my own posts was a struggle. Working on my new library project was hardly doable. Helping other bloggers…uh…sure…

    You really need to step back from time to time and say, “OK, I can’t remember how to work my television (or how to read a book). Maybe I need to slow down a little.”

    It seems easy, but yeah…

    As for the monetization, I think you are quite right that people really shouldn’t have the right to crap all over what you’re doing – whether it’s monetization or writing your blog posts in rhyming couplets. We all have to be comfortable with what *we* are doing. Get there first, and then maybe you can offer friendly advice to someone else. Maybe :)

    • says

      Hi Ari. I specified bloggers because I feel like they get hit the hardest when it comes to criticism on what they should be doing and how they should be doing it. Plus, I’d be almost all bloggers that decided to start earning money from their blog through products or affiliate links can tell you they’ve received some backlash for it. If you come out on the scene as the things you mentioned, it seems to be accepted that you might get busy and have to slack off on certain online activities and that you’re out to make money in your profession. If you start out as a blogger, there seems to be a much harsher reaction if you become too busy to do certain things or you start wanting to make money from it.

  28. says

    Totally agree and is standing up. Blogging used to be a hobby and it now has evolved into something that you can make money with. Bloggers do have a life outside of blogging because if you are a blogger, it is not easy to earn money from the stuff you write because you are competing with a lot of people. There are also thousands of bloggers out there publishing their works and it is important to make your article stand out and find a way that your blog can be easily found by readers. Some people just have a habit of criticizing and this is something that a blogger has to face and overcome. Don’t let them bring you down.
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  29. says

    Well said! =) And wow, sounds like bloggers have some pretty jam-packed days. You are so right about prioritizing, especially to avoid burnout. And when everything’s a priority, you know you have a problem on your hands!

    Delena
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  30. says

    I am totally over trying to explain to people that I work on websites, have my spare time for family etc, and then in my leisure time, I work on websites.

    People somehow they think it is important to watch TV or sit and do nothing.. They almost look at me as if I am deprived..

    When I retire I am going to be blogging on the beach on some remote island, still working on websites..
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  31. says

    I hear what you’re sayi9ng Kristy. I realized lately that a LOT of bloggers (if not most) DON’T blog full time for a living. And last weekend I did my Friday post and took the entire weekend off. And I don’t even feel guilty about it. I probably should, but I don’t :)

  32. says

    I am with you on the quality versus quantity argument. I don’t post until I have something worthwhile to say. While I know that a regular blogging calendar is beneficial from the POV of freshness and other factors I don’t like my blog to become a dump for half baked ideas.

    However I do wrestle with this a lot. Because I am new as a copywriter with multiple projects going on that are not completed yet I don’t have samples or testimonials in the classical sense. My blog posts are my samples and they have been instrumental in marketing. So it pays to have a fairly updated blog.

    The solution, as I see it, is prioritization- one of your points :)
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  33. says

    Just a thought…perhaps Bloggers get flack because it’s a relatively new kind of work and people still are not used to all nuances? I would have to say though, most people probably have more on their agendas than people realize, no matter their job or jobs, as the case may be. As far as making money goes, most people should get paid for their work. Unfortunately, there are unethical people selling some kind of scam and in effect, make a bad name/reputation for the legitimate ones.

  34. says

    Hi Kristi, first time here on your blog from a friend recommendation, I am happy to have landed myself on this post. I totally agree with you on what you are saying about how much commitment it takes and many times how much of other important thing in life we may sacrifice for making our blogs worthy and successful.

    I love my blog and I am almost married to it :). Missing other stuff that a life of a person with a normal job has but I always find motivation to stick with my plans and goals.

    Thanks for the real and genuine expression of your views in here. It is always appreciated.

    Good day,
    Joanna
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  35. says

    Ok, I stood up..literally!

    When I started blogging I thought I should be spending each and every non sleeping moment on the net. Well, that has passed. It’s just not possible actually. I need to be alive and for that I need to be off the net for at least some time!

    Thanks for bursting the myth bubble! Hope you have a lovely day!
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