How Social Media Can Help You Live Your Dream Lifestyle

by Hugh on August 4, 2010 · 39 comments · Social Media


This is a guest post by Hugh DeBurgh from The Passionate Warrior, who has dedicated his life to the achievement of the ultimate family lifestyle.

I’m a personal development writer. So I don’t usually contribute to social media sites. But I thought it might be interesting to uncover how today’s social media technologies are making it possible for many people to live the life of their dreams right from their living room – or, in my case, from my RV.

An Unconventional Lifestyle

I’ll start by telling you a bit about my own family’s experience.

You see, we don’t live a conventional life. We don’t work at conventional jobs. We don’t drive conventional cars, you name it – we aren’t conventional. We travel when we want. We live how we want. We stop and live anywhere that the scenery suits us. Or where the neighbors are nice. And if the neighbors become annoying? We move, of course.

I have no boss. Neither does my wife.

My kids attend no schools. Yet they know more about the world and the people in it than most kids can ever dream of knowing. And they can read faster than I can (at least my 11 year old can). They are children of the world, just as their parents are. No, we are not hippies. We don’t live out of a VW bus and sell hemp products.

We enjoy the good things in life. Luxuries. Technologies. Comforts.

If you met us on the street you’d think we were ordinary people, though perhaps a bit well-to-do. We shed the heavy expensive crap that sucks up most people’s resources. We discovered that we really didn’t need it.

How Social Media Fits In

So, what does our unusual lifestyle have to do with social media? Everything. You see, if it wasn’t for social media, none of this would be possible.

We finance our lifestyle with it (at least in part). We use it to connect with other people who are also living this nomadic lifestyle so we don’t feel alone or isolated. Our kids utilize it to keep in touch with their friends, and to make new ones. They particularly enjoy the voice technology of Ventrillo that is associated with online gaming, which allows real-time voice communication with their friends worldwide. I’m not sure if that technically qualifies as social media, but it satisfies the same function for us.

As long as we can stay “connected,” there is almost nothing that I cannot do from the road that I can do in a fixed place. As technology improves, there is simply less and less reason to tie ourselves down anywhere. That is, unless we simply enjoy being in that place. That is a key point here.

For many years people have lived where their work requires, or have spent countless hours each day commuting to and from those places. We refuse to do this. And we sacrifice very little because of that choice. Time is our most precious asset. It is the only thing that cannot be recovered after it is spent. So why do so many of us waste so much of it?

I spend a great deal of my time with my kids. And with my wife. And when I’m not with them, I’m blogging about our lifestyle. Or just hanging out, doing whatever I want to do. I spend none of my time commuting, dealing with jealous or lazy co-workers, or kissing my boss’ rear end – well, maybe my wife’s ;-) .

When you are on your deathbed, wishing with your soul that you had just a little more time with your loved ones, how will you feel about your decision to spend months of your precious life sitting in a car, in traffic, alone or with strangers, going to and from work? How will you feel about all of the special moments with your family that never happened because you were too busy doing things that you really aren’t crazy about doing anyway?

For a very long time you had little choice in the matter. But no longer. Today, technologies like social media allow human interaction, business and personal, to occur just about anywhere. And that means, for the first time in a very long time, ordinary people like you and me can organize our time around those things that truly matter to us.

So, what are you waiting for? Here’s to social media and its technological cousins. Long may they empower us!

Social Media and Your Lifestyle

Whether you live a more conventional lifestyle or not, please share how blogging and social media has helped you live the way you want.

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John Paul Aguiar
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August 4, 2010 at 11:36 am

Greta post…Social media if used correctly makes it that much easier to connect and build relationships with anyone in the world.. no other median let’s this happen.

People are just open to meeting and conversating with new friends.. try doing this with a stranger and a phone call..lol

Social media also makes it easy to be who you want to be.. introverts become movie stars, extroverts make huge daily connections.

But there is a fine line with using, benefiting, building relationships with people and becoming a spammer.

Find that fine line and you will be a SM super star.
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Hugh DeBurgh ~ The Passionate Warrior August 4, 2010 at 11:43 am

Hey John Paul!

Thanks for your thoughts!

I agree with everything you said. And I would add one final point.

What separates a spammer from a superstar is connection with the reader. If the readers are engaged by what you say, they interact. Or at least react. Whether they agree or disagree with the content, it’s not spam.

Fail to connect with and engage the reader, and you are just noise. And spam is noise with a fancy name.

Thanks again,

Hugh

Amy Andrews August 4, 2010 at 12:14 pm

I’m right there with ya, trying to make social media work for me so that our family can live a bit unconventionally too.

I traveled quite a bit as a child (my parents were missionaries) and I learned FAR more from living in countries around the globe than I ever did in school on US soil.

We hope to move with our four kids overseas someday, and that goal is the exact reason why I’m trying to make a living in social media. I love that it can go with me wherever we end up and that it’s flexible enough so that a life change won’t make a huge difference.

Thanks for the post!
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Amy Andrews August 4, 2010 at 5:00 pm

Oops! What I meant to say was that “I learned far more from living in countries around the globe than I ever did in school on US soil or abroad.”

(Wasn’t tryin’ to dog on America there. Just sayin’ living life is often so much more rich of an experience than sitting in a classroom!) :)
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Hugh DeBurgh ~ The Passionate Warrior August 5, 2010 at 7:29 am

Hi Amy!

Sounds like we are birds of a feather! :-)

Great to hear from you! And I look forward to seeing you “out here” real soon! :-)

Hugh

Melissa August 4, 2010 at 12:44 pm

Great post, it is truly awesome that you are able to live how you choose, very inspiring! Your kids are very lucky in my opinion :)
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Hugh DeBurgh ~ The Passionate Warrior August 5, 2010 at 7:31 am

Hi Melissa!

My mission is to inspire others to think and live life like we do – if they want to.

Anyone can do this – they just don’t know it yet.

All the best,

Hugh

Wedding Lists August 4, 2010 at 1:56 pm

An amazing way to live your life..! Very few people are brave enough to break free from the constraints they feel everyday society imposes on them. Who would have thought that social media would be the key to allow you to break these chains..!

Hugh DeBurgh ~ The Passionate Warrior August 5, 2010 at 7:32 am

Cool, isn’t it! :-)

Hugh

Ching Ya
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August 4, 2010 at 4:51 pm

It’s refreshing to have a new perspective about social media and you did make your point well Hugh. :) Your lifestyle is quite rare and one of a kind considering where I’m living in. What I love about your post is the way you appreciate life & people around you and how social media can actually contribute to it, not controlling us instead.

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Hugh DeBurgh ~ The Passionate Warrior August 5, 2010 at 7:36 am

Hi Ching Ya!

Thanks for your kind comments! :-)

In North America, living life as we do is simply a choice. My family used to follow a very conventional life. I worked in an office, as did my wife. Our kids went to school. We had tons of obligations.

But we intentionally transformed our life so that we could live as we do today.

It can be done. It is simply a lifestyle choice.

Thanks again!

Hugh :-)

Scott Brim from winnipeg real estate August 5, 2010 at 2:58 am

Congrats on living the lifestyle of your dreams. I am sure i would never be able to be able to ‘live’ that kinda lifestyle. I am more of those ‘no change’ guys. But i can see the immense advantages of your life. And good to know social media isnt all about spam. I will surely tack your blog too :)

Hugh DeBurgh ~ The Passionate Warrior August 5, 2010 at 5:52 pm

Thanks for the comment Scott!

Personally, I find it easier to embrace change, but that’s just me.

In this day and age, avoiding change is the real challenge! :-)

Anyway, I wish you the best in your lifestyle path, too.

Everyone’s is unique. All that matters is that the path that you are following is really yours.

All the best,

Hugh :-)

Ben Lang August 5, 2010 at 5:15 am

Superb post, you’re definitely lucky, not many people can live like that :)

Hugh DeBurgh ~ The Passionate Warrior August 5, 2010 at 7:43 am

Hey Ben!

Thanks for your comment!

But I got to tell ya, luck had nothing to do with it!

Our lifestyle is the direct result of intentional lifestyle design – what I call “Creative Family Lifestyle Design.”

And the number of people who can live like we do is much larger than the number who actually do. This is because people do not realize how much they can influence the direction of their life to conform to their dreams.

It doesn’t matter how deep you are into your current life, if you want to transform it, you can. And you can bring your family along with you.

What is required is an open mind and a good idea of what you really want in life.

Living a free life is a choice. We chose it. If you want to, you can too!

Thanks again!

Hugh

Mountain Biking August 5, 2010 at 5:21 am

This is the life I am aiming for. I’m not there yet but I’m in the process of building several websites and blogs and montizing them. I earn about £20 a week through them but it is early days yet, and it’s going to have to increase a lot from that to be able to make a living, but I think within another year or so I’ll be able to leave my job and go wherever I want, with money coming in from blogging and affiliate marketing.

Hugh DeBurgh ~ The Passionate Warrior August 5, 2010 at 5:48 pm

Keep it up!

The number one cause of failure on the Internet is quitting (IMHO).

Focus and keep going no matter what. You’ll get what you want.

I suspect it will take a bit longer than you originally imagined, and your success will be greater than you imagined, too.

That seems to be the way of things.

All the best,

Hugh

Andrew from Blogging Guide
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August 5, 2010 at 7:33 am

Social media or blogging is better than working an 8 hour work shift. No boss, more time with family. Blogging also makes you do things when you want it, how you want it and where you want it. It’s the first time I’ve heard of a nomadic lifestyle and it’s pretty interesting.
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Hugh DeBurgh ~ The Passionate Warrior August 5, 2010 at 7:45 am

Thanks Andrew! :-)

Check us out and learn more! :-)

And living nomadicly is just one of a million lifestyle choices out there for anyone who is interested in deciding how they want to live instead of just accepting how they find themselves living.

All the best,

Hugh

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Tia August 5, 2010 at 4:56 pm

Hi Hugh!

I love my family’s unconventional lifestyle, too, and posts like these are encouraging when it seems easier some days to do it the “old” way. I feel grateful to be living in a time period where making money this way is achievable, because I couldn’t think of a better way to live life.

Cheers,
Tia
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Hugh DeBurgh ~ The Passionate Warrior August 5, 2010 at 5:44 pm

Tia!

I couldn’t agree with you more! :-)

Hugh :-)

Carlton August 5, 2010 at 5:58 pm

Hi Hugh,

Do you earn all the money just by writing? and What does your wife do for living now? I think many readers will be inspired to live the same unconventional life. Can you please write a post which tells us the things that we need to do to make our life easier.

Hugh DeBurgh ~ The Passionate Warrior August 6, 2010 at 12:50 am

Hi Carlton!

I just answered a question similar to yours over at my blog.

I would love to write a post like that here at Kikolani.com, but that’s up to Kristi. ;-)

In the meantime, why don’t you stop by my blog at http://thepassionatewarrior.com and download my free book, Families Without Limits. That should get you started! :-)

Thanks!

Hugh

Colleen August 5, 2010 at 6:06 pm

Not sure I would exactly classify it as a “Dream” lifestyle, but certainly helps. We use social media cautiously as real estate agents are easily perceived as spammers when using SM for business pursuits.
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Hugh DeBurgh ~ The Passionate Warrior August 6, 2010 at 12:39 am

Hey Colleen!

I have found that the more I tried to use social media in a traditional way (essentially, as an advertising medium), the less effective it was.

Social media is a forum for establishing credentials, and fans. You can’t sell to people on here who don’t already want to buy from you. So, to me, social media puts people into a condition of wanting to do business with you. Actually doing business is done in other ways, and without substantial sales effort. Once they have decided to buy from you, the deal is yours to screw up.

I was trained in traditional marketing, so the rules here are weird. But that’s how I have found it to work for us.

I wish you the best of luck!

Hugh

Patricia August 6, 2010 at 12:03 am

Wow. Sounds like a very interesting lifestyle choice you and your family have made. I am new to blogging and I am following my dream of having my own home business. Did heaps of travelling when I was younger and now happy to be home and enjoying writing articles for my blog and styaing close to my extended family who live nearby. Travel sure changes one’s perspective on things. I know it did for me.
All the best in your business which seems to be thriving. I am hoping when I am established mine will be too.
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Joshua Dorkin from Real Estate Investing Blog August 6, 2010 at 11:21 am

Hugh – Congrats on your successes. I’ve got a few friends who, like you, are living the “social media” lifestyle, free of bosses and other related headaches, but it takes hard work and discipline. Many people try and fail. Keep up the good work and best of luck to you and your family.
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Dennis Edell from Direct Sales Marketing
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August 7, 2010 at 2:51 pm

The first thing i ever read from you has made me smile, that’s always good sign.

I’m smiling because you reminded me of an old good friend, definitely a free spirit in his own right. This had to be 10-15+yrs ago now.

At 21 many just thought he was flaky. Well, he was, but one of those genius level flakes, I’m sure you know the type.

He always said his ultimate goal was to RV it around the country with a laptop. The fact that this was back when a laptop would cost more then most used cars didn’t help others opinions of him, of course he never cared.

We lost touch when he move to California (yep) so I really don’t know if it ever came about. I recently found an old phone number for him so I may try to track him down…I’ll be sure to send him your link. ;)
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Hugh DeBurgh ~ The Passionate Warrior August 7, 2010 at 5:29 pm

Hey Dennis!

Glad I reminded you of your old friend. :-)

He was a guy ahead of his time – and that’s not an easy way to live, but he did it anyway.

Thanks for sharing!

All the best,

Hugh

Richard August 10, 2010 at 1:16 pm

I live a life similar to this and, while you style is permitted through social media, it really is the Internet as a whole. However, achieving a self-sufficient lifestyle by using the Internet does take a lot of ingenuity and time.
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Hugh DeBurgh ~ The Passionate Warrior August 10, 2010 at 1:24 pm

Hey Richard!

Yeah, the whole Internet is being leveraged.

In truth, the clean distinctions that we like to make between parts of the Internet (e.g., “Social Media”, etc.) are for our own convenience. It’s all just one big “cloud.”

You and I use whatever tools are at our disposal to make our lives possible. The Internet (and the social media aspects of the Internet in particular) is the primary source of those tools.

And that’s how it should be.

Thanks for your thoughts!

Hugh :-)

Brian from Charleston Marketing August 10, 2010 at 4:23 pm

Great post and I agree 100%. I know not everyone thinks that the blogging/marketing/social media lifestyle is incredible, but that’s because not everyone is built the same. I think in the end it really comes down to loving what you do and having a passion to grow. Thanks for insight!

Hugh DeBurgh ~ The Passionate Warrior August 10, 2010 at 6:57 pm

Thanks Brian! :-)

computer support August 11, 2010 at 11:32 am

Fully agree with your points here. All the posts are fully informative and having very good themes. I love to visit your blog again and again its really increase my knowledge. Social media is really key to success. Thanks for the awesome post.

Hugh DeBurgh ~ The Passionate Warrior August 11, 2010 at 11:52 am

You are welcome! :-)

Patrick from Reverse Phone Lookup September 29, 2010 at 10:47 pm

Its inspiring to see that people can live their dream lifestyle just by using Social media or rather Internet properly.There are some brave and passionate people who don’t follow others but create their own trail,which other people follow.You are one of them.
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Hugh DeBurgh ~ The Passionate Warrior September 29, 2010 at 11:13 pm

Thanks Patrick! :-)

ash from video production company October 1, 2010 at 3:40 am

Social media is key to developing online presence aswell as generating a tidy income if done correctly.

Great post highlighting the major points!

Ash

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