Do you ever have times when you think about calling someone just to say hello? Maybe you have an online friend that you want to write a message. But something comes up, or too little time becomes a factor, and you never say what you want to them.
Now is the time to change that. I know it has been said many, many times before in one form or the other, but you never know how long you will really have to tell someone what you want to tell them.
My mind was wandering a bit today, and I found myself thinking about something that happened last year. I was Myspace buddies with an old friend from high school. She had recently updated her photos, and I was taking a quick peek through them. I wanted to post some comments about what a lovely family she had, how cute her daughter looked holding their pet kitty, how pretty she looked in her wedding photo, and so on. But I was at work, and I was low on time. So I figured I would just come back later and add those comments.
As most “to do” items go, one thing led to another, and it slipped my mind that I wanted to re-visit her profile and comment. About two days later, I received an email from someone else in our graduating class – that my friend had committed suicide.
So do I think the little comments I wanted to make on her profile but never got around to would have made a significant difference? It is one of those “what if” questions that could drive a person mad if they let it. I would like to think that, maybe if I had, if nothing else she would have had a little reminder that there were many more people who cared.
No matter how young, happy, successful, hopeful, or loved a person seems to be, you cannot always guarantee that they will always be around, whether it is by accident or choice. Take that moment, right now, whether by phone, text, e-mail, comment, twitter, plurk or poke. Even if it makes you late for a meeting or for dinner or whatever. One or two minutes spent here and there is not more regrettable more a lifetime of wishing you had just said what you wanted to. No matter how silly or simple or complicated you may think it is. You just never know.
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Sorry to hear the sad news. I agree fully, a few kind words do go a long way. And almost all of us are worrying ourselves to death about one thing or another.
I am so sorry! That must have been a terrible shock.
Do NOT feel guilty, OK?
This is an important message. I make it a point to kiss and hug my family members each morning when they leave the house and tell them that I love them.
I’m sorry to hear what happened to your friend. It’s true we always take for granted for the triviality of life till we are sorry.
Yan
Ouch that really sucks. Death is always hard no matter what cause you always think could I have done something if I did this would this not have happened its hard to go threw and to think about but the thing that keeps me going is remembering that I should be happy and not sorrowful cause this person died. I should live so that their life meant something special and happy not mourning.
Hey Kristi, was browsing through the life category of your blog and I came across this, first of all, sorry to hear what happened, that is quite terrible. I wanted to contribute something here because I had something similar happen, not suicide, but a close friend of mine was involved in a fatal car accident. The reason why it relates is, he was a guy who was full of ideas and dreams, we would talk everyday about the future, what we want to to, how successful we can be, and how he will change the world with great ideas, and then his life was cut short before he had a chance to do any of that. From that, I kind of had a different outlook on life, it made me do things I normally would hesitate or wait on, because now I know how fragile life can be.